Ladies we have taken a thorough look at the mandate itself but let’s take a closer look at the curriculum that we are to teach. We can put the curriculum into 3 main categories: love (reverence), relationships (not slanderers) and conduct (not being addicted).
Let’s start with love. Love is a very important characteristic to have.
John 13: 34-35
A new commandment I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.
As we can see, love is an identifying mark of a Christian. We need to be very careful though that we do not get caught up in the worldview of love. Biblical love is special and produced by the Holy Spirit. It is not just based on emotions or feelings.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 describes biblical love
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.
In order to love properly we should take on the very nature of a servant by ridding ourselves of all hindrances. We need to rid ourselves of selfishness, pride, laziness, insensitivity, and anything else standing in our way. Only after this are we going to effectively be able to teach younger women to love their husbands, and to love their children.
Secondly, let’s take a look at relationships. Women in general are very relational people, we like to talk, we like to be involved, and we like to influence. However, there is a proper way that we should approach relationships.
Philippians 2: 3-7
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should not look only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant.
One way that we can foster good relationships is to think more of others and their interests, which means we need to die to self.
I clearly think of Colossians 3:12-14 as a way to cultivate and foster intimate relationships.
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Relationships are hard. Sometimes we may even feel a person does not deserve kindness, patience, or compassion, but doing so displays the very act of kindness of our savior. By living our life out with these characteristics we will be better equipped to teach the relationships between husband and wife, parents and children, being kind and also being subject to our husbands as the mandate commands.
Lastly, let’s look at conduct. Conduct is the way we behave or manage ourselves. Regardless of what we think, we are always an influence to the people around us. It could be good or bad, but we are always an influence. IN our culture today we give little thought to the people around us. Our conduct has been so skewed from what God would have us be. Scripture calls us to conduct our self in a manner which glorifies God, so how or what does that look like? In Titus 2 verse 3 it speaks that we should be reverent in our behavior. To be Reverent means to be deeply respectful. We need to be reverent in the way we dress, our attitude and the way we act, our speech, and in our relationships. Let’ stake a look at the way we dress in 1 Timothy 2:9
“Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments…
Our manner of dress should be feminine and free of ostentation. It should be in a manner pleasing to the sight of God.
How about the way we act and our attitude and the way we act. Let’s take a look at 1 peter 3: 3-4
And let not your adornment be merely external- braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.
We must be women with quiet and gentle spirits. This is a woman of peace and tranquility accepting God’s plan and purposes for her life in all situations. She is not eagerly angered throwing tantrums for all to see but very reserved behaving herself in public and at home.
We also need to guard our words carefully and not falling into a trap of gossip, harshness, or being untruthful. If we sum up what scripture says about the way we should speak to one another, I feel it can be summed up in three ways: Speak edifying words, speak truthful words, and speak words of good report. This is probably one of the hardest areas we have, is our speech. We tend to speak without thinking because in our minds and in the culture we live we say what we think and we don’t care how it makes other people feel. It may even cause much turmoil and bitterness in many relationships.
However, scripture gives us clear ways in how we should speak to others. Let’s take a look at some verses regarding our speech.
Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29
Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person. Colossians 4:6
Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit. Psalm 34:138
Pleasant words are a honey comb sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Proverbs 16:24
But I tell you that every careless word that people speak, they shall give an accounting for it in the day of judgment. Matthew 12:36
So our speech should be filled with grace, it should be edifying, it should be truthful.
Our last area of conduct is self control. Self control is the act of being in control of our actions, our feelings, and things we allow in our life. And all these things should be pleasant in the sight of God.
By Gina Reeves