Lies Young Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss and Dannah Gresh (LYWB) is a modification of the book Lies Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss written specifically to young women to address many of the common lies that assault them on a daily basis. It begins by addressing the problem of sin and the origin of lies and deception in Genesis 2 and then spends nine chapters addressing nine specific areas of deception pertinent to young women today (chapter headings include Lies About God, Lies About Myself, Lies About Guys, etc.) The book ends with three chapters on overcoming lies.
LYWB is written to young women and reads like it is. The examples and wording often feel as though the reader is in a conversation with an older women working very hard to relate to a younger women. The pages are full of brightly colored graphics and pictures. Many sentences and phrases are outlined for the reader and there are activities like quizzes and areas for journaling scattered throughout the book. Often times statistics are given from various polls to help make a point (“The media has no effect on me” – 98% Agree and 2% Disagree, pg 150).
Nancy and Dannah are not afraid to address difficult subjects and manage to do so with discretion. Drugs, sex (in multiple forms), abuse, molestation, and cutting are all discussed and true stories of girls who experienced these things are shared. In every lie addressed, every example given, Scripture is used as the main source for debunking the lie and providing an answer. The reader will receive advice on how to handle the situation personally and also how to come alongside a friend who is struggling.
The entire book puts an extremely heavy emphasis on combating lies with truth found in Scripture. Girls are encouraged to be in the Word daily, to memorize Scripture and to regularly keep a journal of areas where they are struggling and verses they can use to combat temptation. In addition, they are advised to share the areas they are struggling in with their parents and other responsible adults in order to receive guidance, accountability, and prayer.
One weakness that LYWB has is that it very much tends towards legalism and the making of absolute statements. There are times when a reader will acknowledge the lie, appreciate the examples, wholeheartedly agree with the Scripture given and the principal taught, and then feel blindsided by an ultimatum. To be fair to the authors, they were writing to a very broad audience, believers and unbelievers from all backgrounds and denominations and so it is understandable that they tended towards the side of caution.
I went through this book with two fifteen year old girls that I was discipling. I appreciated the author’s willingness to address difficult topics without fear and the girls and I had many good discussions as a result. We spent a lot of time reading Scripture and seeing the impact, wisdom, and guidance it brings to every situation in our lives. Even the book’s tendency towards legalism was beneficial as we learned to read books with discernment, weighing each word against the Bible and learning the art of being able to take away the good from the book while navigating around the not-so-good.
I would recommend this book for use in a group study with a mature leader. Because of the subject matter there are many opportunities for a girl to feel confused, defensive, and a little judged. But, with someone there to ask purposeful questions and guide the discussion, the girls will have the opportunity to examine areas of their lives that they have never considered before and address the reoccurring question of why they do what they do, think what they think, and believe what they believe.