Perspective & Grace: Unsaved Adult Children Part II

Reflections from The Afternoon of Life: Finding Purpose and Joy in Midlife by Elyse Fitzpatrick

My big “AHA” moment was fairly recent, within the last couple of years.  During one of my urgent pleas to God to please save my children from His wrath and the everlasting, eternal torments of Hell, I suddenly became aware that I had made my children IDOLS.  Their salvation was more important to me than God’s Glory.  John 10:37 tells us:  “He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me; and he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.”  It became a hard struggle for me to pry my children out of my tight clutches and release them over to our sovereign God.  I needed to acknowledge that it was He who had given me the joy and privilege (and yes, pain) of having these precious ones in MY life for HIS purposes.  As the mothers we are, with the nature God gave us to nurture and protect our children, I think one of the hardest responsibilities we have is to let them go.  Some days it is easier than others for me to submit to God’s will, especially if I see one of my children disrespecting or mocking God.  That gets my hackles up as I realize that I am now more jealous for His glory.

But every time I experience the joy of the Lord, my heart yearns for my children to know this same joy and the peace that would end the chaos and unhappiness of their lives.  I long for them to know God, to trust Him so much that they would rest in the hope that He is fulfilling His purposes for their good and His glory.
So, moms, let me encourage you to never give up praying for your children, no matter how hopeless it seems.  Never give up proclaiming the Gospel of Jesus Christ to them.  Never give up living out your faith, no matter what your children’s responses to that might be.  Be willing to share your sorrows and your fears with your family in Christ.  I am so thankful for our ladies’ prayer ministry and our small group, where I know I can pour out my heart and they will never tire of lifting me and my children up in prayer.  “The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.” (James 5:16)

As long as I have life I will look to Christ, my joy and my hope, for the salvation of my children.  I will wait to hear these words from John 4:42:  “It is no longer because of what you (the Samaritan woman at the well who testified of Jesus) said that we believe, for we have heard for ourselves and know that this One is indeed the Savior of the world.”  Oh, to hear that from my children, dear God.  Make it so!


  1. Sherri Stocker says:

    Thank you for sharing your heartaches as well as the things that God has taught you. I am praying for you and your children! Be persistent and keep asking of God! I have seen God move in response to our pleas to save several children who were resisting or rebelling, even one of my own. I found this quote awhile back; it is true, and gives us much hope! “A mother’s love and prayers and tears are seldom lost on even the most wayward child.” A.E. Davis

  2. Linda Cate says:

    Thank you, Sherri, for your encouragement and, most of all, for your prayers! They are much appreciated!

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