Biblical Solutions for Problems with Others
What Difference Does It Make What He Intended?
Hurt Feelings Part 2
Sometimes people hurt us unintentionally. Martha properly places blame on the one who got caught in the crossfire. With myself front and center, I will agree with Martha, we are far too sensitive and self absorbed. We need to be actively overlooking these hurts and lovingly assuming the best of others.
For the intentional hurts of others, it is their sin, yet we are responsible to overcome those hurts biblically. Here are the eight practical ways Martha offers as a biblical solution to overcome the intentional hurts of others.
- Show love to God and the person sinning against you. We accomplish this by obeying God’s word. Ask yourself “How does God want me to respond?”
- Thank God for the test. We need to look at everything from an eternal perspective and ask, “What does he want me to learn from this?”
- Overcome evil with good. Resist the natural tendency to fight evil with evil.
- Give a blessing instead.
- Pray for those who mistreat you. (I thought, “Do hard things”, when I read those three!)
- Speak the truth in love. Don’t feel the need to respond right away as we might be caught off guard and often in such times, we speak for sinful gain.
- Lovingly confront the person who has sinned against you. Ask yourself, “how would you like to be confronted about it?”
- Bring other witnesses into the situation if necessary.
When we see our own offense in it’s true light, only then can we see the gospel in it’s true light. The true light of the gospel is so illuminating that we can’t help but forgive, because we have been forgiven of much! When we remember that and then seek to love God and love others, we are responding righteously and we can be properly restored to a brother/sister.
Earlier in the chapter she says it nicely, “Our Lord endured much suffering due to the intentional hurts of others.” We also participate to a tiny degree in the “fellowship of His sufferings” when by His grace we respond righteously. Jesus not only suffered far worse than us, but did it for us. He did it perfectly. He was rejected, betrayed, defiled and humiliated by his bride. Since He was human and knows our sufferings, He is patient as He empathizes with us. He is also God, therefore, empowering us like no therapist in this world can, to overcome hurt, even the deepest of hurts. Praise be to God.
- Do you have an “unforgivable”? Do you believe you have a “right” to that?
- Thinking of your deepest hurt, have you responded righteously, or do you believe it’s the exception?
- What does it mean to “fellowship in His suffering”? Make it personal.